Fractal Wellness

Finding Your Faith In The Universe

I don’t know about you, but I find certain coincidences to be a bit mind blowing.  It’s not the fact that they happen as much as the fact that they have a way of getting my attention when they do. A long time ago, it got me questioning, are they just coincidences or is synchronicity really a thing? 

If you’re not sure what synchronicity is, it’s just a really cool way of saying “a meaningful coincidence”.  Carl Jung is actually the one that coined the term and if you don’t know the story about how it came about, it’s actually pretty cool. I definitely recommend checking it out.  To quickly summarize, he was with one of his patients and as his patient was telling him about a dream that they had about a golden scarab beetle, he heard a tap on the window.  When he looked over to hear where the noise was coming from, he saw that there was an actual beetle on the other side of the window.  He found it interesting that the two events happened at the exact same time and it was then that he came up with the term, “synchronicity”.

I have talked to so many people, friends included, that say coincidences are inevitable and just a matter of a probability, but for some reason they always felt like more to me.  I could go on and on telling stories about crazy coincidences that have happened to me and they may or may not seem like a big deal, but in the moment they meant something to me.  After hearing the probability debate so many times, it put me on a quest to figure out how synchronicities occur and if they really are just a matter of probability.

I remember one story from years ago when my roommate told me that he would be moving out in three days.  He was a great roommate, we got along really well, and he felt bad that he was giving me such little notice, but he got offered a job position that he couldn’t pass up.  In that moment I remember feeling so stressed out about having to find a new roommate on such short notice, but I didn’t want him to feel any worse than he already did.  I knew that he had to do what was best for him and making him feel bad about it wasn’t going to solve anything.  My boyfriend at the time and I were on our way out, so we left the house and as soon as I got into the car I looked over at him and told him that I was so stressed out.  I turned the key in the ignition to start the car and as soon as the radio came on, the first words out of the speaker were “everything’s going to be all right”.

I looked over at my boyfriend with tears in my eyes, we both laughed and that was it; that was the end of my stress. The universe had spoken and those were the exact words that I needed to hear in that moment.  The song that was playing was “Danny’s Song” by Kenny Loggins and it put my worrying to an immediate halt. Something in me knew that against all odds, things were going to work themselves out and they did. I actually ended up finding a roommate immediately and it was pretty incredible. 

I had another experience where I had met a guy for a first date and we decided to take a leap of faith and take a day trip together.  We both had the day off and we wanted to make it count.  We met in a Perkin’s parking lot and he jumped in my car so that we could head off to hang out by the beach for the day.  During our hour and a half drive he asked me when my last car accident was.

“DOH”!

Who does that!? 

I immediately responded that it had been ten years, but I didn’t want to talk about it for the fear of jinxing myself.  We kept driving and had an amazing day getting to know each other over breakfast, playing cards, exploring another city, and watching the birds dive into the ocean.  As we were driving home, I was stopped at a stoplight and when I looked in my rear view mirror, I immediately knew that the driver behind me wasn’t going to stop.  That night I had my first car accident in ten years. 

I looked over at my date and started laughing and told him, “this is your fault”.  It wasn’t really funny that we had been in a car accident, but it was funny that on our way to the beach we had a talk about synchronicity and it wasn’t something that he believed in.  I truly believe that the Universe has a sense of humor.  I’m not sure if that day changed his beliefs about synchronicity immediately, but I do think that his beliefs eventually evolved later on.  We became friends and kept in touch over the years.

Could that car accident have been a coincidence? 

Sure!

Do I think that it was?

It sure didn’t feel like it! 

I have always been curious about ideas pertaining to the Universe.  I’ve spent years exploring theories, coming up with my own, and developing my beliefs.  I tried to figure out how you could prove that coincidences are a matter of probability versus something more meaningful.  The truth is, I’m not a researcher and I have no idea how one would go about proving that, but I gave it my all.  During that process I discovered so many really awesome things about the Universe.  It was during those years that I became obsessed with fractals and realized how much math exists in nature.  Before that, I never even knew what a fractal was or that nature had such an order to it.

Since those discoveries, I’ve never looked at a plant the same way again.  At first glance, nature seems to be chaotic and without any rhyme or reason, but nature is full of patterns, cycles, rhythms, and math, such as the golden ratio.  Fractals can be found in trees, clouds, coastlines, mountains, and even in the human body. If you’re not sure what a fractal is, it is simply a self similar repeating geometric pattern and you can find them everywhere. Discovering the way the seeds grow on a sunflower is simply incredible and something I never would have even noticed before.  I highly recommend googling “fractals in nature” and then looking at the images. You won’t be disappointed.

Trying to solve the riddle of synchronicity vs. coincidence wasn’t something I ever found a concrete answer to, but it did put me on a wonderful path and it changed the way I looked at everything.  There is something magical about how nature is so interconnected and functions as a complete and intricate system.  It is on such a grand scale that it is difficult for me to even wrap my head around.  There is so much that is measurable, but also so much that still remains a mystery.  Scientists are even discovering that plants have their own way to communicate with each other.  Maybe learning more about plant communication can teach us more about our own.

I still can’t explain how I can think of someone that I haven’t heard from in forever and then get a phone call from them the same day, but it happens all of the time. I know it must have something to do with energy, frequencies, and how we are all connected somehow.  I can’t explain how I hear the right words on the radio in the exact moment that I need to hear them or how I constantly see the same numbers repeat in my life, including 11:11.  I know that there are so many other people that repeatedly see 11:11 too because I have listened to countless stories.  I can’t explain so many of the crazy little coincidences that have happened to me over the years, but maybe it’s better that I can’t. 

Maybe that’s the reason that they feel so magical to me when they occur.  There are times when I feel like they are just little coincidences and I laugh them off, but there are other times when they grab my attention and feel like something more. The feeling that I have is what I choose to trust.  If I get a message that I need in that moment, then sometimes I think it’s best not to over analyze it.  Our perceptions make a huge difference in the way we live our lives.  You can read more about that here.

Intuition can be really hard to make sense of at times, but it can also be a really helpful tool to navigate through life. Synchronicities have taught me to trust my feelings and my intuition more.  When something feels right, I have learned to go with it or simply trust that I am being guided.  Sometimes synchronicities are just a great reminder that I’m part of something that is way bigger than myself and I am so thankful for those reminders.

So what you do you think?

Synchronicity or Coincidence?